Experiences on life, love, family & everything in between.
I’ve been thinking a lot about purpose and fulfillment and this idea that everyone has one right purpose. In an ideal world we would know our purpose and have a career in that area. But I just don’t think that is true. We humans are pretty complex and this idea there is only one right thing doesn’t really make sense to me.
I know that there are people who do have a clear purpose, they have always been very clear on what they want to do and then they have followed that path to achieve it. I think that’s amazing. But I would argue that there is probably more than one thing that would make them feel purposeful and passionate. I think we can feel like we aren’t on the right path if we aren’t working in a career we love.
For me, purpose is more about fulfillment. I don’t think people need to find their one right purpose but I do think everyone should find out what fulfills them. A life where everyday has, at least in part, a little something that fills them up, lifts their mood, makes them feel good.
I know when I was going back to school 12 years ago that accounting was not my purpose but I also knew that I needed to something that would provide stability, which my accounting career has done for me. I didn’t have the luxury of finding a career that was also my purpose because there were bills to pay and kids to feed. I spent a number of years focusing all of my time and energy on my career and my family. I felt like if I wasn’t focusing on that I wasn’t being a good student, employee or mother. I was drained all the time.
I felt dissatisfied because I wasn’t doing something that was my purpose and I was really disappointed and disheartened that I had no idea what my purpose was. What was I even good at? I’m not an artist, I don’t play an instrument, I am not highly academic. But I think I confused purpose and fulfillment.
What I wish I had focused my attention on then was being ok with the fact that I was making decisions that were ultimately best for my family but that didn’t mean I couldn’t also have fulfillment. There was nothing stopping me from dancing, writing, singing or learning more about philosophy or how to bake.
So I guess what I want to say to anybody who feels like they are stuck in a life of responsibilities or in a job they don’t really love, or they feel like they are still trying to decide what they want to be when they grow up, is don’t worry about it! Embrace the job that supports you and your family and just make sure you take the time to do anything that you love, that makes you feel purposeful and fulfilled. Take an evening class, join community theatre, start painting in your kitchen. You don’t have to be producing genius level work, you just need to be enjoying yourself. The point is to feel fulfilled not to produce an amazing product.
If you are feeling a little lost and want to explore what fulfills you, book a free discovery call here, I currently have room for two more 1:1 clients. Or if you just needed a reminder that you can find more joy in your life right now without overhauling everything, then I hope this post has done that for you.